What happens when you come to a crossroad in your life and you need to decide which path you are going to take? You could go all Robert Frost and take that one “less traveled”, but what if that one ends up being a dead end. Frost is dead, he’s not going to help you out. So how about this? Make a decision, but put down the superglue. Why? Because things change. Don’t feel that because you decide on something today, that you can’t change it tomorrow.
There Are Forces That Conspire to Keep Us Stuck.
These forces are like superglue. If you have ever super-glued your fingers together, you already know how much it sucks to be stuck with a mistake. These forces, unfortunately don’t always know the difference between what we want to stay glued and what we need to liberate.
There Are Reasons That We Get Stuck:
What You Don’t Know CAN Hurt You. You might know that “something’s gotta give” but you have no idea how to go about it. For example, I know that if I want to get a better job, I might have to improve my interviewing skills. But how? We are not born with skills, we develop them as we go. You may have to do some research and some practice for whatever it is you DON’T know.
Tell Me What You Want, What You Really, Really, Want! Let’s see, I think I want to study astronomy but I think I might also want to open my own bakery. Hhhmm, sounds like you don’t know what you really, really want. Being clear and setting goals are the only way you are going to get to where you want to be. If you can’t choose a vacation destination, you’re stuck at home.
Free Willy vs. Destiny’s Child
Depending on how you look at it, you either have free will or you are a victim of fate/destiny. So if you believe you have free will to change, then get started. Otherwise you get stuck in the woe is me mantra, “I guess this is just how my life is going to be” Whaaaaaa! I prefer Willy over Destiny any day.
Wash Your Underwear With the Fiberglass Curtains
You will be itchy-guaranteed. I don’t really advocate scratchy undergarments, but there is a level of nervousness and fear that accompanies great change. While you may think you are in great danger of going after that promotion, new job, or even asking someone to dinner, you are not. The anxiety you feel is normal. The fear is normal. There is a certain level of discomfort that happens when we step outside our “comfort zones”. Use your logical brain to ask the question, “what’s the worst that can happen?” Answer: You end up scratching your arse all day. Ha!
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